It’s time to say goodbye and thank you to San Francisco, from Sonoma. I’m sitting on the deck of our friends’ house. In months like May, it’s warm and sunny, but cool enough at night. The lavender is in full bloom; three deer, two of them young bucks, have been up and down the creek bed all weekend; the trees have fully leaved, providing essential shade and a beautiful mix of greens; and it’s calm and peaceful and perfect. This is what we will set out in search of shortly, both in the day to day in the year ahead but also for our future home. We need the serenity and the feeling of home that Sonoma has so consistently given us.
First, though, we must stay goodbye to San Francisco. I’ve been here for fourteen years, Alanna for thirteen, transplants, as so many are, neither of us necessarily expecting to stay as long as we did. It was over eleven years ago that we found each other, or rather, I found Alanna. Those of you who know the story know it as a sweet one, chivalrous even, and it produced an enduring love that neither of us could have imagined when we crossed the Bay Bridge into this wonderful city for the first time. Us, thank you San Francisco, you gave us Us, and if this was all that we had received from you, it would be more than enough.
Amazingly, you also gave us a legal marriage! I don’t think either of us imagined when we arrived, or even when we had our “illegal” wedding a few years before Gavin Newsom made Us legal, that we’d see the gains that we have, especially in the last decade. Thank you SF for giving us Gavin Newsom and his courage and his foresight. Thank you for giving us a legal wedding in Mayor Newsom’s office, officiated by the man himself, surrounded by close friends and some awesome girls from Burke’s Class of 2008! Living history, we all were, together.
We’ve been fortunate to build beautiful relationships here, both personal and professional. While it tears us up to leave our friends, we know we have to, and we know that we carry the strength of these relationships with us, that they will endure, that we will find each other again, and that we are more open than ever to being a friend because we have learned how with each of you. Thank you, our dearest friends, for your patience with us and your love and your care and your support. You have allowed us to grow, squirm, cry, run away and run back. Find us, on the road or in our next home, find us and spend time with us, and don’t let us forget the wonderful humans we found by the Bay.
Who could have predicted when we arrived that our professional lives would have evolved as they have, and that we would leave here feeling so accomplished and competent and valued for our work. For the last ten years, I have been fortunate to work with the incredible kids and their families at Katherine Delmar Burke School. During that time, I have been inspired and supported by the most amazing professional educators. Thank you to my Burke’s peeps for challenging me to be my best self and for always having my back.
What an inspiring gift it has been to me, to watch Alanna’s professional journey, from the histology lab to a compassionate, extraordinary personal trainer. I loved hearing the stories of her clients, and the great care and respect she had for their willingness to work hard.
There’s just so many things about this magical city that we will miss, so much that we have learned and discovered. The list is long, so I’ll just hit some highlights as I suspect some of the things we love about this place will surely weave there way into what awaits us on the road. Jacarandas in June and July; the Alemany Farmer’s Market, each and every Saturday; Frances and Dosa, our go to spots; the foghorn, but not necessarily the fog; progressive politics, activism and protests; The Castro—yes, we still need gay neighborhoods! parrots, whose squawk makes us smile; the “treehouse” we called home the last four years; Charlie the Wonder Cat; Pride; Dubs and Giants, though Cubbie blue still runs deep; Batteries to Bluffs Trail, on a sunny day; Fort Point.
While this post began in Sonoma, the writing wrapped weeks later in SF, just today as a matter of fact. It’s a day filled with so many emotions, waking up to learn of a horrific hate crime in Orlando, with 50 of our fellows dead and many more injured. How many families and loved ones and lovers in the shadows had their lives altered in ways unimaginable? We’re leaving the bubble in a week. What’s it gonna look like out there? I can’t help but wonder, and worry just a bit.
We plan to walk as slowly as possible in this next last week of residence, to soak it all in and live in gratitude and mourn the loss of innocent lives. Thank you, SF, for giving us all of this, and so much more. Mostly, thanks for Us.